Involuntary Break I should say. Since Thursday everyone is off giving thanks I had to get my meds ordered and talk in with the doctor. Actually, she called yesterday night as a response to my crazy emails. I am not sure if that is a tactic that I should use on the regular because as much as I see it as a neurotic quirk, I am sure that it can become very annoying and fast. I will keep it in the back pocket for those times I really need to get her attention. In my defense I was wondering if we should cancel the cycle now before I order a lot of meds and have to cancel it after that.
I will be going in on Thursday to see if the expensive medicine I have been injecting into my stomach is doing anything. If it is not then we will have to cancel the cycle. (I am thinking I am glad I didn't go with the attain program, a program which they give you 3 fresh and frozen cycles and give some of your money back if it didn't work for the cost of 2 cycles. I read the fine print and if they cancel your cycle after you start the meds, it counts as one...)
I was surprised I didn't find that sinking feeling when I got off the phone with the doc. I was in the middle of making a pumpkin cheese cake and my filling was being carefully constructed in the kitchenaid mixer when I heard the phone ring. I had to switch to to low and go off and talk to my doctor. I heard 'meds aren't working', 'might have to cancel the cycle', 'I thought your AMH last time was just off but you are acting to meds like you have a low ovarian reserve', 'its unfair since it was good a few months ago', 'I wouldn't say you are out but I wouldn't expect 3 or 5 kids in the future','... donor egg but we aren't there yet.' I left the conversation thanking her and saying I guess we will have our fingers cross for the blood test and ultrasound on Friday...I hung up and slowly walked back to my kitchen. All was quiet except for the low hum of my mixer. My husband was staring at me waiting for me to tell him what the doctor said. After I while I did tell him.
I have ordered the meds, have been on a double dose of Menopur and we will see what happens. But today is thanksgiving and I guess I will begrudgingly be thankful.
Ahem. I am thankful for:
The health, happiness and support of my family (even though I won't be able to see them this holiday season since I have decided to get these treatments done)
My loving and caring husband and partner in life and this quest (he is doing his best and it is better than me)
My two little dogs (they are only 5 pounds each but give back tons of love and probably have done me a tremendous service these last few trying years that I can never repay)
We are financially okay... have a house and food.
I am also thankful that I haven't had that sinking feeling in my stomach I was plagued with the last few months. I feel it might be around the corner but at least its not here today.
That is a lot to be thankful for. I am not giving up. I remember making the decision to do this. I had 2 failed IUIs and 1 cancelled one under my belt. I knew it would take a lot of money and it might not even pan out. I was scared that if I try this and IVF fails, I would be out of options (well options that I have considered to this point I am sure there are other things that I might well look into when my options have been limited or removed) but I thought about the alternative... not trying it. Being me, I couldn't do that. I couldn't not try because there is a possibility. If (I hope when) I have a child all of this worrying and cost will not matter a bit... so here I am on the verge of finding out if these medications are not right for me and hopefully learning something from this possibly failed cycle.